Divine Mothers

If you ask anyone or if you feel there is any relationship purest to the core, there is nothing like Mother- Child Relationship. The love and sacrifice by every mother towards their child is truly immeasurable and no material on earth is worth to pay back them.

For these and several reasons, every year on various dates across different countries Mother’ Day is celebrated worldwide to recognize the divinity of fearless and faithful Mothers and its very imperative no one could obstruct on this scared day.

In Nepal, as per Hindu Calendar, Mothers’ day is celebrated on the day of Mata TIrtha Aunsi. Religious people either fast or cleanse them early morning, perform puja , worship gods and goddesses including Mother and offer them sweet delicacies gifts. Children pray for sound health, long life and prosperity of their mothers.

As time evolved, kids and their parents have been distant due to various reasons, preferably for higher education or job opportunities. When possible, they pay a visit back home or exchange greetings over telephone or web/internet. Oh, posting statuses or photos on social medias are on the rise, let’s not forget. No harm as long as there exists respect and love for each other.

However, anyone can have an only mother, but there can be many motherly figures in their lives over the passage of time. When people are kind to one another, the list of these mothers can be very long. What about the rituals to be performed if each were equally treated? Because there can be people of belief that mothers aren’t celebrated just because they give birth.

Therefore, as social media keeps trending on various dates, this pure day is no exception. We can see people honouring and applauding their mothers and motherly figures through poems, chants, words, photos or videos. Nepali people who are more concerned about their families and relationships cannot keep aside their aunts, grandmothers from maternal and paternal sides. Young fathers congratulate their wife (turned into mother) and lastly married individuals thank their mother-in laws too. 

Still no comments on people’s preferences over their actions and undertakings. Unfortunately, it’s very hard to keep up with relationships these days. Knowingly, unknowingly relationships falter and people pave their own paths. Especially while numbers of divorces are on rise, it’s evident that couples choose peace over toxicity. These are serious issues at least in Nepal because our society is either too patriarchal or we live in close proximity where words spread faster than works. 

A year one married individual wrote beautiful lines about her mother-law, thanked for bringing her child who turned into his/her spouse etc. The next year they parted ways and damn finish. Other instance, and adult posts pictures of all aunts and grandmothers in the family and all of a sudden casual jealousy, disruption erupts in their families and there’s no same celebration the following year.

What is actually missing out here? Essence of the power of mother or the power of their individuals? Aren’t we supposed to celebrate Mothers’ day everyday and keep concern about their needs? Can we rise from materialistic aspects of this societies, showbiz of business houses and social media stunts?  Shall we move from bullies; chaos we create within our families?

This emergence of time if not treated well might invite more disruptions in at least mental health of an individual or people at large. Let’s celebrate mothers individually or collectively in own form with no hidden expectation and greed. May this relationship flourish like the jacarandas during the month of Jestha in the streets of Pokhara all round the year. 

Only love.